For The Love of Real Love

How many times can we say I love you? Not enough times to get people to understand the true meaning of love. Love is not the material things we have or give to others. Love is not just a hug or kiss for your loved one's. Love is not having relations with your husband, wife, boyfriend or girlfriend. Love is not a gift on Valentine's Day. Love is not gazing into you mates eyes or reading each others mind. Love is not a horse carriage ride through the Downtown Chicago area. Love is not sailing on Lake Michigan under the moonlight. Love is not dressing in sexy clothes to impress your mate. Love is not giving up you virginity. Love is not marrying for his or her money. Love it not abusive. Love is not cursing out your mate & the kids. Love is not telling your best friend or friends about your mate. Love is not dating a married man or woman. Love is not leaving your wife or husband for another man or woman. Love is not being a bad mother or father. Love is not being controlling...etc.

But I believe real love is; Patient & kind, love is not jealous or boastful or proud or rude. Love does not demand it's own way. Love is not irritable, and it keeps no record of when it has been wronged. It is never glad about injustice, but rejoices whenever the truth wins out. Love never give up, never loses faith, is always hopeful, and endures through every circumstance.

The gift that come from love is: Forgiveness, patience, kindness, love for truth, Love for justice, Love for the best in a person, loyalty at any cost, belief in a person no matter what.

Love has no room for Jealousy, envy, pride, haughty spirit, selfishness, rudeness, demand for one's own way, irritability, and grudges.

There you have it my take on what love is even though; Love is like a rumor everybody talks about it, but people aren't totally sure how to use it.

ShoYoLuv,

My Top 10 Inspiring Quotes of the Month

1. Never allow an unhappy person to make you so mad you step outside of yourself to get down in the gutter with them. ~Star Jones~

2. I am one with spirit & all is well, frees me to live more abundantly. ~Hea'vona~

3. Love is like a rumor everybody talks about it, but people aren't totally sure what it is. ~RevRun~

4. Remember God is everything & everywhere doing BIG things. ~Hea'vona~

5. No...Worry I am faith-filled, fearless & free. Today I remember the truth of my being: I'm a radiant child of God. ~Daily Word~

6. I've learn to change the things that I can change & let go of the things I can't change...Trust God ya'll. ~Hea'vona~

7. If you fall, (Don't worry)you don't fall out of Gods hands. You fall into His hands. ~RevRun~

8. You really don't lose friends. You just kind of discover who your real friends are. ~RevRun~

9. When I am in sync with God, harmony is the inspiring result. I am blessed and at peace. ~Hea'vona~

10. Today choose to use positive words, think positive thoughts, and act positive in all your ways. ~Hea'vona~


I hope that you're blessed through my choice of Top 10 Inspiring Quotes.


~So let go & let God~

Love, peace & joy

What Is Important to Our High School Students

I ask this question because just recently my niece posted on her Facebook page that she couldn't wait to get to school tomorrow because it was going to be a BIG fight. What is going on with the students of today? Why are they so excited about fights breaking out in our schools and neighborhoods? Why aren’t they excited about going to school to be educated or getting A’s and B’s, or helping out another student that maybe failing? What is important to our high school students? I coincidentally heard some female students complaining about getting out of bed for school. One of the students said: “I’d rather stay home to watch television…And another said: “Eff that I’ll go kick it with my man before I go to school…I hate such & such school.” I couldn’t think of anything to encourage these young ladies. In my head I just said: “Wow!”

So I asked the question again: What is important to our high school students? I was sitting with my twenty-six year old cousin the other day, and she was showing me how our young high school students can post their fights one on one or group fights on YouTube. I was amazed at the countless numbers of fights you can watch on YouTube. Our students seem to be angry, hateful, disrespectful, non-caring, envious, bitter, and non-fearing fighters. Why or how did our high school students get this way?

Is it because we have a lot of single parent homes or is it that the single parents are at work more than at home? Or are our single parents kicking it with a boyfriend, girlfriend or friends to often? What’s going on in the homes of these high school students? Is there not enough family time spent together or maybe not enough sons & daughters discussions about God, life, love, peace and unity? What is the real deal as to why our high school students are fighting and declining to go to school? Parents what are you teaching your children...Are you teaching morals & values in line with properties in life? How important it is to get a good education? Do you insure them that they are absolutely nothing without God in their life?

I want to get to the bottom of this as to why are our high school students fighting and declining to going to school.

Talk back to me ya’ll (High school students & parents.)

1. Tell me what going on in the schools that makes you not want to attend?

2. I want to know your thoughts and actions behind deciding to go somewhere else other than school?

3. What is important to you pertaining to school?

Email me @ heavona@juno.com

Peace, love & go to school

Wisdom Is...

THE
PRINCIPAL
THING
THEREFORE
GET
WISDOM
AND
IN
ALL
YOUR
GETTING
GET
UNDERSTANDING
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1. I am divine wisdom in expression. I am alert & confident wherever I am & whatever I do.

2. To walk in His wisdom is to know His perfect will.

3. If anyone lacks wisdom, let him ask of Him who gives it freely.

4. He has been made unto us wisdom, and in Him all the treasures.

5. Worthy is the Lamb who was slain to receive power, riches, wisdom, strength, honor, glory and blessings.



WISDOM
Is the gift
Of
Learning
Understanding
Loving
You gain wisdom thru
Experience
In life to spread
The
Knowledge
Of
What
You
Know
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Yes, I Am My Sister's Keeper

I want to close this 2009 year acknowledging an organization of women called Yes,I Am My Sister's Keeper. From what I've leaned is that this group of women teaches on self-love and empowerment to women of all colors, race and ethics. I was asked to befriend a young lady by the name of Chloe from my Face book page. Chloe seems to be a very inspiring and motivated get down to the business type of lady. It was unfortunate that she was recently out of touch for awhile due to a computer problem, but she's back and more knowledgeable then ever.... And so after a week or so I was then asked to befriend Yes, I Am My Sister's Keeper which I was honored to except. This organization of women seems to inspire and amaze me even more with their daily encouraging quotes and comments. So here I am writing a blog about it.

It brings joy to my heart to see that a group of women can come together to make a difference in each others lives. Yes, I Am My Sister's Keeper seeks to make a change in the way we as women should live, make decisions, set goals, stay focused and being productive. They also inspire us as women to always take some me time as well as teaching us on how to know who you are as a woman. They encourage us to get to know ourselves through self-love, peace, joy, and strength.

If you don't know this organization: Yes, I Am MY Sister's Keeper. Get to know them by joining them on Face book or log on to the website: I Am My Sister's Keeper.Com. They will bless you and enrich your life.... Question: Are you your sister's keeper?

Thanks to Chloe for introducing me to such a wonderful group of women, Yes, I Am My Sister's Keeper. I appreciate your knowledge and encouraging words.

Love, peace & blessings in the New Year,

Let Go

Why does it seems so hard to let go? Is it because we get so attached that when it's time to move forward fear consumes us? So we continue to stay connected when we know good-in-well that we should have let go a long time ago. Letting go maybe one of the hardest things for us. We have yet to take full control over these words; "Let Go." It's a difficult decision that one must make when it may cause pain or disappointment.

Letting go can affect us deeply in many different areas of our lives. It may cause one to become violent, outraged or even mentally ill. We have to learn to let go be it a relationship, friends, boyfriend, girlfriend, children, and even if it's the death of a love one.

We have to let God move in our act of letting go, so that He can place us in a state of mind that letting go can give us that peace, joy, understanding, love and strength to know that letting go is a victory.

Letting go is knowing that you have overcome the need to hold on...I Grant you strength & victory to receive the power to LET GO!!!

Blessings,

Single Black Men

I recently read an article about five very single black men giving the low down on the availability of black men, women standards, and putting a ring on it.

Well! Ladies the word is that we need to check our standards. Listen up… The brothers don’t seem to mind a women with standard; but ladies your standards might be a little to high for the brothers. Word is that they are all not ballers. Sista’s y’all seem to want the men with the fancy cars, the big homes, and the executive jobs. Ladies bring it down a little it seems that y’all always turning a brothers down, you don’t compromise, ladies you make the brothers work to hard, and you have that attitude like I deserve this and that, but the brothers are saying; “No, you don’t!”


So my black sista’s, here’s why our brothers are turning to white women because they don’t put as much pressure on the brother like the sista’s. The white women give the brother’s money for whatever need, do their laundry, and get this the white women even let the brothers driver their dad’s Benz…Wow! If I did that my daddy & mama would beat my butt all up and down the City of Chicago streets. White woman are more willing, they compromise, and they are more about the pleasing your man first.


Ladies in order for the brothers to put a ring on it you must stop listening to your girls who either has a bad attitude or don’t even have man at all, and stop being obnoxiously loud or trying to be the center of attention that turns the brothers off. Amp it up in the bedroom be a little nasty, being a little loud doesn't hurt either, also be open to trying new stuff…And ladies the brothers said: Oral is a plus especially if your over 30.

Well! Ladies there you have it. Get it together; sista’s so that the brothers you’re seeing will, in the words of Beyonce…” PUT A RING ON IT.”



…And don’t forget to ShoYoLuv

It's Whitney Houston...My Girl!

I had to write about my girl... The beautiful and sexy Whitney Houston whom I have much love and respect for. Don't judge, because we all have errors and flaws.

Whitney swept me away with her soulful, and salutary voice. I have been front and center for more than 20 years, but something happened. The singer did herself no favors when she participated in a far-too-revealing 2002 television interview with ABC's Diane Sawyer, during which she was asked about the widely spreaded rumors of drug use. Whitney hotly disputed the allegations, but the damage was done. Three years later, she imploded after a too-public display of untoward behavior with her then-husband Bobby Brown, on a reality TV show. Her mask was ripped off. Her vulnerabilities were revealed.{Ebony Magazine}

Can you imagine how hard it was when Whitney vanished from the public eyes. She need time to handle her business; to get herself straight...But when I got wind about her dropping a new CD I was over-whelm with excitement. It seemed like forever for Whitney to reconnect with me her BIGGEST fan, but the wait was definitely worth it. When I was told that she was on the Ebony Magazine I nearly recked my car getting to the newsstand. Umm!...that's funny now that I think about it...Hehehe!... So lets put the past behind us moving forward.

She's indeed back! with her hot new CD I LOOK TO YOU...I love it with my favorites song being A SONG FOR YOU & MILLION DOLLAR BILL being the best video.

Whitney Houston "I ask God to LIFT ME, to let me see my light again."


Whitney Houston my love is real for you.... #1 fan
Blessings, Sista

ShoYoLuv

I often tell my family and friends to ShoYoLuv today, tomorrow and forever, but I sometimes forget to take my own advice. I've learned in these God given days of my life that if you don't completely love yourself you will never know how to love someone else. God loved us first as His very own, so that we would take that same love; to love ourselves and others.

(The World say) Love is deep affection or fondness, sexual passion, sexual relationship, beloved one; sweetheart, delight in; admire; greatly cherish(The American Century Dictionary).

(God Said) Love suffers long and is kind; love does not envy; love does not parade itself, is not puffed up; does not behave rudely, does not seek it own, is not provoked, thinks no evil, does not rejoice in iniquity, but rejoice in the truth; bears all things, believes all things, hopes all things, endures all things, love never fails (Nelson Study Bible).

I asked myself do I really walk in God's kind of love? Honestly; No!!!... I don't, because the part that says believe all things. Well! I don't believe all things, so I myself fall short in that area, Okay!... Let's keep it moving>>> Where do you fall short in God's way of love?

In my famous words ShoYoLuv is my way of motivating people on how they should use love as a way of making it through the trials & tribulations that life has to offer us. Through ShoYoLuv you can conquer all these things, Suffering, hurt, pain, hatred, doubt, fear, jealousy, envy, hardship, rejection, failure, poverty, foolishness, rudeness, provokers, misunderstandings, and negativity.

Question: Who's Love do you follow? God's or Mr. Nelson? Do you need time to think about it.... Times up... What is your answer?

Until next time ya'll, and don't forget to ShoYoLuv.

Blessings,

Rihanna & Chris Brown

I’m not to sure what to think about the Chris Brown and Rihanna interviews, because domestic violence goes beyond the celebrities. There are millions of young ladies and women who are going through domestic violence’s daily. But they are too afraid to tell or talk about how their husbands or boyfriend is hitting and beating them.

I am happy that Rihanna has decided to leave Chris Brown; to came out to speak openly about this act of violence from her then boyfriend Chris Brown. There is a healing that each of them need. The good thing about Rihanna and Chris Brown is that they both have acknowledged that there is a problem; and that they are will to get the help they need to start a healing process, but like I said early on domestic violence goes beyond being famous. It hits home for many young ladies and women all around the world.

Today there are young ladies and women who don’t have the courage that Rihanna had to come forward to talk about their abusive husbands or boyfriends. I myself has experience it once in a relationship before, but I can say that I had sense enough to know when it was time to leave; but there are so many young ladies and women who are not strong minded as I, to say enough is enough.

Many young ladies and women are too afraid to walk away from their abuser. Most young ladies and women are afraid of what might happen to them after they have walked away or where will they go and how will the make a living without their abusing husband or boyfriend. We often look at the abused young lady or woman and say "if that was me I would have walked away along time ago” or “I wouldn’t take that off my any man” and finally “girl! Just walk away from him.” Yes, all that is easily said then done. Young ladies and women are afraid of their abuser, and think that leaving home may result in losing their life; so they stay hoping that it will get better.... But I am here to tell you ladies....Wrong!!! It gets worst.

Ladies it will NEVER get better; so put away with the love you have for your abuser and get HELP!

“Love who you are as a WOMAN”… Period

Peace & love…

The Fort Hood Shooting

This weekend I anticipated on writing a blog that would encourage my sista's, but no... I must write about the Fort Hood Texas shooting. Now I have no idea of what this man was thinking or who has pissed him off to the point that made him kill. Midal Malik Hasan 39 year old Army psychiatrist suspect in the assault that killed 13 people, and hurt 30 others. He was a counselor who once required counseling for himself because of trouble he had dealing with some patients. Check this out Nidal Malik Hasan had difficulties that required counseling and extra supervision. Why is this man still on base...Somebody please explain!

Now here's a man that is sworn by a oath of loyalty to the military, but he turns around and open fire on his on people. What the HELL... Now I must ask this question; Can our soldiers trust each other now? I am out raged.

Two of our very own Chicago soldiers was confirmed victims of the massacre Thursday afternoon. Killed was Michael Pearson of Bolingbrook and Fancheska Velez of Humboldt Park. Two people who knew that they was doing justice for our country.

Does the families of these victims have the right to be anger? What do you think?

Lord... How do we deal with this type of situation? I can only say this, if a staff member is having a problem that requires counseling or extra supervision remove him/her temporally for the safety of the others.

My prayers goes out to the families of these lost soldiers.

Peace & Love,